The benefits of eye gazing to enhance intimacy in a relationship.
Prolonged eye contact has been thought to release phenylethylamine, a chemical responsible for feelings of attraction. It has also been thought to release oxytocin, the love chemical most closely associated with longer term bonding and commitment.
1. While it’s confronting, eye gazing helps boost our confidence, improves self-esteem and develops self-awareness.
2. It’s app- and tech-free, which means you can eye gaze almost anywhere. For example, outside in nature, or in a room with candles and soulful music. You can even do it solo with a mirror.
3. It’s an opportunity to become present and experience the true essence of another.
4. We face ourselves and our fears head-on.
5. By transcending the physical form, it helps us break down barriers and let go of judgements about ourselves and others. We look at the world with a different perspective, often entering an entirely different realm.
6. Although non-verbal, it can improve communication and compassion. Tips to start eye gazing
If you would like to try this exercise for the first time, you can follow the instructions bellow. Over time you and your partner will work your way to your own style when eye gazing.
1. When eye gazing with a partner, it’s best to be seated so you’re more comfortable. This could be on chairs or sitting on cushions or bolsters. However, it’s perfectly ok to do it in bed in the mornings or anywhere really. Work out the time most suitable for you.
2. Before commencing, close your eyes for at least a couple of minutes, breathing deeply to centre yourself and connect within.
3. With eyes closed, set an intention, internally or verbally. For example, maybe you want to feel more connection to your higher self or to others or be seen for who you are. Release your intention without expectation or attachment. With that in mind, ideally, it’s great to have a shared intention when eye gazing with a partner. I recommend you set intentions for you here and now and into the future.
4. When you open your eyes, the idea is to gaze into the left eye. It’s regarded as the most receptive emotionally.
5 Observe your response without judgement note what is happening inside you.
6. One minute is a great starting point for eye gazing, although you’ll probably find it passes quickly. Ultimately, the idea is to build up to at least five minutes. There’s no set time limit, although I have known of people to gaze with the same person for about 45 minutes! Make this exercise your own.
Enjoy each other
Warmly Sharron