Do you try to fix your partners feelings?
One of our deepest needs as humans according to “Carl Rogers” one of the founders of humanistic psychology, is to feel understood. Notice, that I said, “feel understood”. Because the truth is we can understand our spouse well, however; if they don’t ‘feel’ that we do then all the intellectual understanding in the world won’t…
Keep readingDo you fight fair in your relationship?
Fighting in a relationship is inevitable. When we come together with our partner, to build a relationship, we bring with us our own ideas and history. So, it’s not surprising that those differences at some point will clash. The problem arises when we believe that there is only one truth. When we are unable to…
Keep readingWhat is at the core of happy relationships?
What is at the core of happy relationships? At the core of happy relationships is a sense that you matter to each other. It’s knowing your beloved will be there when you call, at least most of the time. It is a culture of responsiveness to each other’s distress, needs, wants, and desires. It’s being…
Keep readingCriticism in relationships how to respond
#CommunicationSkills in relationships is essential to its longevity It can hurt when your partner, the one you love criticizes you. If you can be mature enough to move past the criticism you can move to a more connected place. If your partner starts to criticize you, look beyond their criticism and to the need behind…
Keep readingIt is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced.
It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced. Our culture sees the longevity of a relationship as the hallmark of its success. But is it? I don’t believe so. Even though you and your partner may have made the decision to separate it does not mean you have failed.…
Keep readingRespectful Separation for Couples.
Respectful separation for couples. It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced. Our culture sees the longevity of a relationship as the hallmark of its success. But is it? I don’t believe so. Even though you and your partner may have made the decision to separate it does not…
Keep readingWhat does a healthy relationship look like?
I am often asked what does a healthy relationship looks like? I would prefer to use the word securely attached than healthy; however, they mean the same thing. Here is what secure couples do well They sometimes argue and fight; however, they know how to come back together and repair the fracture the fight has…
Keep readingWhat underlies the need to control?
If you have an underlying need to control, you are being driven by fear. The question to ask yourself is this – “what do you think will happen if you don’t control this situation, person”? If that thing happens, how will you feel? This is what you are ultimately afraid of yourself and how you…
Keep readingAre you co-dependent?
Are you struggling with co-dependency in your relationships? #Co-dependency is a term loosely used to describe people who feel extreme amounts of dependence on certain loved ones in their lives, and who feel responsible for the feelings and actions of those loved ones’. When you are co-dependent, you lose your #“authentic self” you arrange…
Keep readingApologising is an art.
There are some things you can guarantee in life, like death, taxes and that your partner at some point in your relationship will hurt you. One of the ways we can ensure that we come back from disappointment and hurt feelings in your relationship is to learn how to make an effective heartfelt apology. Repairing…
Keep readingIntergenerational Trauma
Were you raised by a mother who had unresolved personal or intergenerational trauma? Has this affected you and your relationships? Many of us have been raised by mothers who carried intergenerational and personal trauma, and this deeply affected their capacity to parent us as children. It is difficult to be connected to your children if…
Keep readingRelationships 101 Interview
In this episode, Yvette welcomes special guest Sharron Brandon to the podcast. Sharron is a marriage and relationship specialist with over 20 years of experience helping couples feel heard and connected within their relationships. Given the testing times 2020 has delivered thus far, Yvette has specifically invited Sharron to the podcast to offer guidance and…
Keep readingDivorce and Separation Counselling
Can you end your relationship amicably? Absolutely! The end of a relationship sparks a roller-coaster ride of feelings. Our relationships form a core part of our identity. When you go through the end of a relationship, you are also experiencing significant disruption to your sense of ‘self’. Intimate relationships provide you with a sense of…
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Hi, I’m Sharron. When I am not counselling, my favorite pastime is gardening – indoor plants are my latest endeavor. Flowers in my home bring me such joy! I love finding unusual pots and vases at markets for them. My husband Owen even gave me a Groot pot!
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