One of our deepest needs as humans according to “Carl Rogers” one of the founders of humanistic psychology, is to feel understood. Notice, that I said, “feel understood”. Because the truth is we can understand our spouse well, however; if they don’t ‘feel’ that we do then all the intellectual understanding in the world won’tContinue reading “Do you try to fix your partners feelings?”
Author Archives: Sharron Brandon
Do you fight fair in your relationship?
Fighting in a relationship is inevitable. When we come together with our partner, to build a relationship, we bring with us our own ideas and history. So, it’s not surprising that those differences at some point will clash. The problem arises when we believe that there is only one truth. When we are unable toContinue reading “Do you fight fair in your relationship?”
What is at the core of happy relationships?
What is at the core of happy relationships? At the core of happy relationships is a sense that you matter to each other. It’s knowing your beloved will be there when you call, at least most of the time. It is a culture of responsiveness to each other’s distress, needs, wants, and desires. It’s beingContinue reading “What is at the core of happy relationships?”
Criticism in relationships how to respond
#CommunicationSkills in relationships is essential to its longevity It can hurt when your partner, the one you love criticizes you. If you can be mature enough to move past the criticism you can move to a more connected place. If your partner starts to criticize you, look beyond their criticism and to the need behindContinue reading “Criticism in relationships how to respond”
It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced.
It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced. Our culture sees the longevity of a relationship as the hallmark of its success. But is it? I don’t believe so. Even though you and your partner may have made the decision to separate it does not mean you have failed.Continue reading “It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced.”
Respectful Separation for Couples.
Respectful separation for couples. It is time for us to reassess the way we separate or get divorced. Our culture sees the longevity of a relationship as the hallmark of its success. But is it? I don’t believe so. Even though you and your partner may have made the decision to separate it does notContinue reading “Respectful Separation for Couples.”
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What does a healthy relationship look like?
I am often asked what does a healthy relationship looks like? I would prefer to use the word securely attached than healthy; however, they mean the same thing. Here is what secure couples do well They sometimes argue and fight; however, they know how to come back together and repair the fracture the fight hasContinue reading “What does a healthy relationship look like?”
What underlies the need to control?
If you have an underlying need to control, you are being driven by fear. The question to ask yourself is this – “what do you think will happen if you don’t control this situation, person”? If that thing happens, how will you feel? This is what you are ultimately afraid of yourself and how youContinue reading “What underlies the need to control?”
Are you co-dependent?
Are you struggling with co-dependency in your relationships? #Co-dependency is a term loosely used to describe people who feel extreme amounts of dependence on certain loved ones in their lives, and who feel responsible for the feelings and actions of those loved ones’. When you are co-dependent, you lose your #“authentic self” you arrangeContinue reading “Are you co-dependent?”
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